Write about the last disagreement you had with a friend or family member — from their perspective.
“Mom. You just have to accept that I am their mother and while I appreciate everything you do for us, you HAVE to learn the boundaries! You had no right to interfere!”
I cannot believe what daughter just said to me. My child. It doesn’t matter how old she is, or that she has children of her own, how could she say such things to me? I am hurt beyond belief. She and her children are all that I have up here. I can’t abide with the thought that she might be so angry that she will distance herself and the children from me.
I do not understand why she thinks I have crossed a line. She is so very busy. I know she has been under a lot of stress. I only contacted Monkey #1’s teacher about his grade because I know she doesn’t have the time to do it herself. I could find out the answers and then help him improve his grade. She doesn’t have the time to! Besides, she has been feeling so down in the past few months, I don’t want to add any more to her plate. And I didn’t tell her in advance because I didn’t want to burden her. I was just trying to get it done. I was just trying to help.
Monkey #1 and I have always had a close bond. After all, he is “special.” He is my first grandchild! He needs guidance and protection because of his Asperger’s. And it’s not that I don’t think she isn’t a good mother. She IS! But, I have so much experience dealing with the Special Ed process. I can HELP her.
If only she’d understand. I didn’t mean to hurt her. I didn’t mean to interfere. I didn’t mean to make her feel like a bad mother.
I was only trying to help.
If only she’d let me.